Bishop's Valentines: Brenda Fidaleo '91 and Jake Hamer '91

Did you know there are more than 90 Bishop's alumni married to fellow alumni? That's a lot of love! For the week leading up to Valentine's Day, we'll be featuring some of those couples and highlighting the love that was ignited because of Bishop's.

Are you a Bishop's couple? We invite you to share your love story with us in this online questionnaire.

Brenda Fidaleo '91 and Jake Hamer '91

What are you up to now?
Jake and I are both physicians with Scripps Clinic. We moved back home to San Diego after residency in 2008. We have three amazing children: Cole (17), Brae (14) and Owen (12). Life is good and living near our families is a blessing.

Tell us your love story!
Jake and I were in the same class, graduating class of 1991. During the four years we were at Bishop's, though, we only had two classes together and that was during our senior year. I went off to Occidental College (Oxy) and Jake transferred to Oxy to play baseball with his best friend and Bishop's classmate Grant Bailey '91 our sophomore year. Grant went off to Russia for his junior year and Jake and I both needed a place off campus. We started out as roommates and the rest is history. It was a long haul getting into Georgetown Medical School together, but we would do it all again. We were married in Lake Tahoe with many Bishop's friends surrounding us in 2001. Grant was Jake's best man and married one of our physician friends who came to our wedding. It is a small world!

How did Bishop’s impact your relationship?
How can it not?

What advice do you have for other Bishop’s couples?
Remember to keep dating like you did when you first met. Remember to stay best friends; after all, that is why you married them!
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